What Are YOUR Accedssories?

I had someone ask me a question about Life Accessories. HUH?? I had no idea what she was talking about until she explained that Life Accessories are those little things in our every day lives that bring us joy. They don't have to be the huge gesture or item, just the simplest of things. I started to think about it, and I realize that there are so many ways and reasons to find joy EVERYDAY.

My mother is probably the happiest most joyful person that I know. She finds happiness every where she goes. In fact, her favorite mantra is, "Let's all get back to happy!" I love that and it's a saying that I want to start adopting more in my own life. I thought about it, and you know, I laugh more when I am with my mother than any other time and I wondered to myself why that was. Now I know the answer, because joy follows her everywhere she goes, and better yet - it's contagious!

If I really appreciated all the little accessories that I have in my life, my heart would be full of gratitude and joy! Think about it, it's difficult for a heart that is full of gratitude for even the smallest things to be unhappy. A grateful heart just has no room for that emotion because it's too full of love.

All of this brings me back to my life's accessories. Here are some of them:
My lilac and lemon Yankee candle - the smell of it brings me so much joy and reminds me that soon, my own Lilacs will be blooming!

Silence - I love the quiet. I love to be alone with my own thoughts, to do as I please - to simply enjoy life.

Good music - as I have been told on many occasions, I have extremely eclectic tastes. Still, a song or CD can alter my mood and uplift me faster than just about anything besides my children.

My pictures - looking at the memories that my family has built over the past 9 years makes me happy and makes me long for the memories that I know the future will bring.

A hot bubble bath - remember the advertisement "Calgon, take me away!" They were really on to something! A hot soak truly can transport you to a better place.

My garden - helping God bring beauty into this world is right up there with giving birth. It's the same concept but this time, my children are flowers.

Vanilla and jasmine scented shampoo- now that my hair is longer, I love being able to smell it. The scent wafts over me at unexpected times and makes me happy!

These are just a few of the little things that I experience every day that make me happy. What are YOUR life accessories?

The Defining Moments

We have all had them - those moments which shape our lives for good or for ill. Sometimes I find myself in one of those moments and recognize it for what it is. Other times, they occur without my knowing, but when I look back I can see how that particular moment changed and impacted my life.
On my Cafemom group,Highs and Lows, we are discussing these moments this week. I sat down and really thought about the moments that changed the course of my life. Here are a few of them.

The death of my brother - my brother, Jamie, died years before I was even born. It is a source of great sadness in my life that I never got to know him. I always wanted a brother. His death affected my life in so many ways, not the least of which was that, at least with my Dad, my sisters and I lived in the Shadow of what my brother might have been. We were always compared to his ghost. It's hard to live up to what might have been.

My first kiss - Thank you Jimmy Rossmiller. Because of Jimmy, I realized that I was in no way cut out to be a nun, which was my first occupational "calling". That kiss was sweet, shy, soft, and memorable, even if it did take place in a grave yard. ( Yes, it's a long story...) At any rate, I will always be thankful to Jimmy for showing me that I was not nun material.

The Death of my Grandmother - my Grandmother died when I was ten. She was my best friend. I miss her every single day - STILL. Her death affected me, because I realize that life is fragile. My grandmother died when she was 62. She was much too young. I don't take my loved ones for granted. I love fiercely and I tell my loved ones often that I love them. I always regretted not being able to say goodbye one last time to my Grandmother and I never want to have that regret again.

The night I met my husband - seriously, I knew that he would change my life forever. I just knew it. I didn't know how, and if you had asked me then, I never would have guessed how it all turned out, but I knew that he would change me. And he has.... in so many ways - all for the better. Every moment of happiness that I have known as an adult since have all been impacted by that night.

My wedding day - wow - the moment I looked into those brown eyes of his and said my vows - I believed with all my heart that it was forever. When I look at his hand in mine, sometimes it is hard to tell where my hand stops and his begins. My future - whatever it may be - is empty without my husband.

The birth of my daughters - there is nothing like becoming a mother when it comes to change. Yes, I knew, in the moment, that each child would change me. Each has brought so much joy to my life and when I look at them, I feel so humbled by the awesome trust that I have been given. These two little lives are mine to shape, love, and encourage. These two little lives are mine to care for and that is such an awesome responsibility. Being a mother is the greatest challenge that I have ever faced in my life and I love every minute of it - mostly. ( Come on, no one loves the projectile vomit, screaming, hair pulling craziness.... but you know what I mean)My daughters truly are the lights of my life.

I look forward to the future with hope in my heart as I face whatever other defining moments life has in store for me. I know that some will be sorrowful and others will be joyful, but that's life. You have to take the good with the bad. After all, no one has the right to ask, when bad things happen "Why did this happen to me?" unless we also ask the same question of every moment of happiness we are given. Life is a gift. All of it. Live the moment.